You are 30, male, single and absolutely bugged with all the well-wishers who want to party at your wedding. Read some sage advice from a guy who is fending them off, Like a Boss!
We live in a society where staying single beyond a certain age is a social stigma. If one comes of a certain age and is not yet married, something must be wrong! This arbitrary number has changed over the years. A few generations ago, child marriages—which are completely unimaginable and sound blasphemous now—were quite common. Gradually this number kept changing. A couple of generations ago it was the early twenties and it changed to mid-twenties in the previous generation and these days the magic number seems to be 30. Well, I am getting closer to this deadline and there is too much pressure.
The Society Attacks
Engineering has taught me many things (engineers would get it and people who aren’t engineers please understand that I am being sarcastic). One of them is the ability to get things done at the last minute. So, here I am approaching the deadline and asking myself “Can I complete the task within the deadline? And more importantly, should I?” To add to this confusion, people close to me have started using different strategies to try and manipulate me into saying ‘yes’. Here are some of the commonly used maneuvers:
Strategy #1: Scare Tactics
There is a standard warning sign for a 30-something single guy, “You should get married because soon all your friends will be married and you will be all alone and lonely”.
You should get married soon because the chances of finding a good bride is inversely proportional to your age.
Strategy #2: Emotional Blackmail
One important reason for a man around thirty to get married is to ensure that grandparents get a chance to see you settled while they are healthy so that they can celebrate their hearts out.
Strategy #3: The Pleasant Illusion
Marriage is a magical journey which fills your life with happiness. And, you are missing out and getting old.
Well, these were some of the most common ones. So, let’s address these, one by one.
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- A Single Guy’s guide to fending off the social pressure of Marriage! - October 26, 2016